Intimacy-focused Meetings

5. Intimacy-focused Meetings

5.1 Why attend intimacy avoidance meetings?

Because we honor the Twelve Traditions of SAA (adapted from the Twelve Traditions of AA), “we have the freedom to develop our meetings in different ways, in order to meet the varying needs of our diverse fellowship. … No single type of meeting can meet the needs of every sex addict. Some addicts will be more receptive to certain kinds of meetings than others.” (Sex Addicts Anonymous, page 83)

Members who want to stop objectifying people may experience the mixed-gender intimacy-focused SAA meetings as a safe place to hear other human beings talking about their feelings, needs, challenges, and triumphs in recovery. Those with sexual trauma may appreciate experience, strength, and hope from members who are learning to love their bodies and treat them with respect or practicing using their voices and setting boundaries to keep themselves safe as an amend to themselves, and experiencing less fear of others as they apply the spiritual principles of the program. Some ISA-focused telemeetings and video meetings tend to have attendees from all over the world, so a variety perspectives and experiences are shared.

Sharing in ISA meetings may bring insights into some of the less-talked-about nuances of sex addiction. People whose compulsive sexual behavior is more solitary may resonate with what is shared in avoidance recovery-focused meetings. Someone who is afraid to be sexual may hear ideas for simple, less-threatening ways they can begin to open themselves to connection with a Higher Power that heals both compulsive sexual avoidance and acting out.

5.2 What options are there for intimacy-focused meetings of SAA?

There are a few in-person meetings that focus on intimacy and/or sexual avoidance. (If there is not one in your area, you might consider starting a meeting.)

There are a number of intimacy-focused phone and video meetings. Members outside the United States can call in to phone meetings with local numbers or use a Voice Over Internet Protocol. Information is available on the meetings page. For specific assistance, please email the or